Just like we have been brought up as a society, or as women to self talk ourselves out of liking and respecting our bodies, we have also been taught to talk to ourselves negatively about food. Have a look at this article. ‘Things we should never say to ourselves about food.’
Phrases like ‘I deserve this.’ ‘I’ve earned this.’ ‘I will make up for this tomorrow.’ ‘I was so bad today.’ I shouldn’t be eating this.’
What about asking questions instead:
‘Am I enjoying this?’ ‘Is this satisfying my needs?’ ‘How is this benefiting me?’ ‘Does this make me feel good?’ ‘Am I hungry?’
‘Do I really want this giant piece of caramel mud-cake?’ (Yes! Are you kidding me? Always yes!)
I’m not saying to obsessively ask yourself all these questions every time you put a morsel of food into your mouth. I’m saying perhaps you can sometimes pause and ask some of these questions.
I’m saying DO NOT FEAR THE FOOD.
Do not talk negatively to yourself for eating food. Just think logically about it. Weigh up the pros and cons like any other aspect of your life and make informed decisions.
Food is fuel. Food is for celebrations. Food is energy. Food is for survival. Food is life. Food is good!
Eat the food and don’t feel guilty about it. Your mind, body, and soul will thank you for it.
Don’t punish yourself for enjoying food, don’t punish yourself for fueling your body.
Don’t punish yourself for enjoying that mud-ca… ajfk;ajF;AJ. Mmmm sorry…. I just got crumbs on the keyboard…
I’m probably only going to eat a small piece of cake at a time, not because I’m punishing or rationing myself but because I’m listening to my body and stopping when it is full and satisfied. (Also because I’m saving some for dessert.)
I will eat the food I want when I want it (Really want it.)
And if it is actually the best thing I’ve ever put in my mouth then I will probably listen to that other part of my brain that says, ‘Are you freaking kidding me?! Eat the cake bitch, eat it all up.’ And I will. Oh, I so will.
I order you to go an eat some cake right now. (Unless you don’t like cake.) Then definitely go and eat some fries instead. (Unless you don’t feel like fries.)
Let’s remember to transfer that positive self-talk to all aspects of our lives.